Saturday, March 15, 2014

Thank you and a few new things

I know this is well over due (like almost 2 months) , but I just wanted to say thank you all for your kind words on my last post.  I was so nervous when I hit the post button and shared on Facebook. I got several comments, emails, private messages on Facebook, and text messages from so many people almost immediately and the following days.  It was a relief to get it off my chest and the support from everyone was wonderful!  Thank you!

Anyway, on to something a little more light hearted :)  The weather has been getting much better!  Spring is near!  There's still some chilly days here and there but you can tell that people around town are excited about the weather and seem to be in better moods. More people outside walking and windows rolled down.

I am having a dance show this weekend. Had a show last night and it went pretty well!  It's been awhile since I've performed on a big stage!  The week of the show is sometimes stressful but the night of the show is always a mix of emotions! Nerves and excitement! Putting on lots of makeup and costumes!  Usually I feel good after the first dance (I'm in 3 this show) but sometimes I go out on stage completely forgetting what dance I'm doing and what comes next. Thank goodness for muscle memory!  Hoping tonight goes as well as last night!

I'm hoping to get back into doing flowers soon!  It's been very slow over here lately and I didn't find much to work with.  Soon enough I'll be planting some flowers and things will start coming back after the winter.   Maybe next week I'll go out for some flowers.

Oh, by the way, Happy early St. Patricks day!

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Going through a miscarriage

I've thought about mentioning this on here for awhile.  I'm kind of a private person, even though I share some stuff on here, it's mostly just pictures and projects of stuff.  I've never really gotten too personal.  Miscarriages are very common and a very personal thing, which is why not many people talk about it. I've decided to share my story with you, not because I want you to feel sorry for me, but in case anyone else has or is going through the same thing.  It can be a little lonely at times, but reading others peoples stories/situations helped a little.  This will probably be way too long and maybe a little too detailed (maybe even graphic). Who knows if I'll actually go through with posting it...here we go!

Last year on Valentines Day I found out I was pregnant. I was a day late and woke up early to surprise Jeremy by making breakfast while he was in the shower. I think I was awake before him just laying in bed waiting for him to get up. I decided I would test just get it over with. I ran to the downstairs bathroom and took the test. I put it down and I thought I could start to see a second line but I ran back upstairs to start the bacon. After I got the bacon started I went back down and  what I thought I saw earlier was correct. This was a little bit of a surprise. I didn't really know what to think and I wasn't sure if I should tell Jeremy before he left for work.  The rest of the day I paced around the house. I was nervous mostly because I knew we weren't going to have maternity insurance and we still had a bunch of school loans we were trying (still are....almost done!) to pay off.  When Jeremy got home he asked if I wanted to go to the movies and we picked out a time.  Finally, I just came out with it!  No special or cutesy way to announce.  I felt so much better after telling him. We were excited and over the next couple days (weeks really) we talked about baby stuff and baby names.

We decided to wait to tell anyone for awhile. I called my doctor, but they didn't want me to come in till 8 weeks. I thought that was a long time to wait but time went by. I started to feel sick around 5-6 weeks. I never actually threw up but was mostly nauseous through out the whole day.  My first appointment came and everything looked great. I had an ultrasound done. Jeremy didn't get to go but I texted him a picture right away.  Later that weekend we decided to tell our parents. Yay! Everyone was excited! Over the next week we told our siblings. I still wanted to keep it a secret just in case. I went to the doctor again at 10 weeks and heard the heartbeat, everything was good.  At 11 weeks I decided that it was ok to let some people know.  My mom told her group of friends and Jeremy and I told a couple of our friends too.  I was going to do a little announcement on here at 12 weeks (I was already starting to show a little) but decided to wait till after my appointment which was a couple days later.  I'm glad I decided to wait.  They couldn't find a heartbeat on the Doppler.  They took me to get an ultrasound and I was starting to get pretty nervous.  The little baby popped up on the screen and I could see the little arms and legs. The tech didn't say much. Then she said she couldn't find the heartbeat. Nothing. At first I wasn't sure what that meant. Was this really over? Or was it just another "couldn't find it" type thing. I could feel the tears welling in my eyes but I tried to push them back. She walked me back to my room and on the way it seemed like everyone and their mother was in the hallway. I was looking straight ahead because I didn't want to make eye contact with anyone but I think the tech must have made a face or shook her head a little because I could feel everyone's sad looks.  I was left in the room alone for maybe 30 seconds pushing back and wiping away tears and snot.  My doctor walked in and as soon as I saw her face, for the first time, I knew it was over.  She was really nice and we talked about my options.  She said the baby probably stopped growing at 11 weeks 5 days (ish). She let me walk out the back so i wouldn't have to see anyone and then gave me a hug.  Jeremy was supposed to come to this appointment with me but he ended up having to work late.  I walked into the bathroom because I could feel myself starting to loose it and wanted to get some crying out before I drove home. It ended up being one of those really ugly silent cries because someone else was in there.

This all happened on a Friday so we took the weekend to figure out how I wanted to go about doing this. Having a d&c, doing it at home with medicine or naturally. I had for the most part already decided when the doctor told me my options but she told me to think about it. I decided to have the d&c. I felt like it would have been too painful physically and mentally doing it at home being 12 weeks. I was scared it was going to happen on Its own before I could have the surgery.

I went in the following Wednesday (would have been 13 weeks) to have the d&c. Jeremy has done the anesthesia for these before and said it maybe takes 15-20 minutes.  I had never been put to sleep before so I was a little worried. Jeremy said I had some good doctors and they would take care of me.  Anyway, It was time to go back and the last thing I remember was coughing into the mask and my doctor telling me that I was ok.  Then I remember waking up in recovery.  I didn't have my glasses or contacts on so everything was really blurry. I think one of the first things I did was check if my teeth were still there. Didn't want my teeth to have gotten chipped getting put under (I hear stories from Jeremy) The nurse told me that I had lost some blood and was getting fluids. I heard her say that she was sending for Jeremy.  I think i kinda got the special treatment since Jeremy works there and knows everyone.  I had my own curtain around me in the Recovery Room and Jeremy got to come back, which i don't think family is allowed.  He walked in and told me how much blood I really lost and how long I was really under for.  It took them about an hour to remove everything. He said he was getting worried because he knew they don't usually last that long. Finally the doctor came in and talked to him and he said she looked a little worried herself (she later told me that my surgery aged her 5 years). Since I was so far along and had so much tissue I kept loosing a lot of blood.  I had lost about a liter of blood and being kinda small...that's a lot of blood!  I stayed in recovery for about 3 hours and then 2 more hours in my room getting fluids. I was finally able to eat! I wasn't allowed to eat or drink anything after midnight the night before, which was really just dinner time for me.

The recovery time for the d&c was fine.  I was just dizzy and weak for about a week afterwards probably from the blood loss. Of course I was still sad.  Some days better than others.  We had gotten the tissue tested to see if they could find out why i miscarried.  A few weeks later my doctor called me and said that the baby had XXYY syndrome.  Only males get this.  We were going to have a boy.  This made things feel more real to me and made me feel worse.  Picturing what could have been and all.  I don't think XXYY syndrome is very common and is likely it wont happen again.

I had to go in every other week to make sure my HCGs (hormone levels) were going down.  It was a sad reminder every time knowing that I should have still been pregnant and seeing other pregnant women there too.  In the mean time my parents came to visit, i went to visit a friend in CT, and we went to Yellowstone.  Things were still not back to normal.  *this part might be a little gross* On the 4th of July i went to the bathroom and this big mass came out.  It was fleshy colored, but no blood.  We think it was left over tissue that never got out during the D&C and thats why it was taking so long for my HCGs to go down.  I probably should have gotten another D&C.  Jeremy and my parents say no way never again...my doctor pretty much said that too.  She said she hopes to never have to do a D&C on me again (that makes two of us!)  It ended up taking 15 weeks for my HCGs to go all the way back to 0.  That's probably about 7-9 weeks longer than most. Of course everyone is different.  My doctor said we had to wait 2 periods before we could try again.  I just wanted to be pregnant again and go back to where i was at 12 weeks.  So when she told me about the 2 month wait and then the 15 weeks on top of that it was just getting too long and the waiting was horrible.

A few people know about the first miscarriage, but not many know about the second and third.

In late September i found out i was pregnant again.  We were really excited and so happy it happened right away.  I went in immediately to the doctor this time for blood work.  Everything looked good.  HCGs were where they were suppose to be.  We had decided again not to tell anyone until we got past the 12 week mark.  Not even our parents.  Well this time i miscarried around 5 and a half weeks.   I knew when i started to spot that it was over.  I'm not a very optimistic person.  My sadness quickly turned in to anger.  I was mad that it happened again.  It was frustrating.  So many people tell you that it's so common to miscarry you first pregnancy and i thought i had gone through that already.  Why didn't this stick?  My doctor said it was just bad luck...it might not have implanted.  A few weeks later i got a bunch of tests done and everything came back negative.  Normal.  Nothing was wrong with me.  By this time i was tired of getting my blood drawn and people at the doctors office seemed to know me.  One lady asked if i had had my baby yet.  I was standing at the counter which went up to my chest so she couldn't really see me.  I just smiled a little and said no.  She kept looking at me waiting for an answer and i told her i miscarried.  I felt bad for her.  I know she felt bad and was uncomfortable.   I never told anyone about this miscarriage and it was sometimes hard to pretend that everything was ok.

I was told to wait a month or two and we could try again.    Well towards the beginning of December i found out i was pregnant. AGAIN!  I went in immediately to do all the blood work and this time i was put on progesterone.  Here we go again. This time we were very hesitant to get excited.  It's hard to not think about it, and being the planner that i am it felt extra hard to not think about the future.  I had this weird thing about being pregnant at Christmas time.  I think it's because i was suppose to have a baby from the first pregnancy and we were going home and i was just excited about that.  So i kept thinking as long as i can be pregnant again by Christmas.  Well here we are...a week before Christmas and i miscarry at 6 weeks.  I had told my parents when i found out this time because if i miscarried i wasn't sure i could keep that quiet.  Again i was angry and bitter and i might have given God the stink eye a couple times.  My doctor called me and said she just doesn't know what's going on and she needs help. So I am now going to go see a specialist in February. I never ever thought I would be here, 24 years old and I can't stay pregnant.  Fortunately, we have no problems getting pregnant and i know that's a struggle for many.

To say that 2013 was an unlucky year would be an understatement.  Im not a superstitious person, but 13 was just not my number.  It's still something i think about daily.  It seems like every week there's someone posting an announcement or pictures of their pregnancy or newborn baby online.  I'm happy for them and hope for the best, but it's just a sore reminder.   This may come off as rude, but when i hear someone talk about or post about how sick they've been or their one month old baby wont let them get any sleep, I'm sorry but I don't feel sorry for them.  I'll get over it someday ;). Some people say that this time in my life will be a blur and it wont hurt so bad.  Hopefully it will be, but honestly i don't ever want to forget it.  It's part of me and has made me who i am.  It's part of my story.

It's not fair in knowing that i will never have another pregnancy without fear.  I can't just be excited and happy go lucky.   There will always be worry, caution, and fear of something happening.  Every little cramp sends me into a slight panic.  I'm scared to go to the bathroom.  If i don't have some sort of symptom then i think that it's over.  I suppose everyone things about miscarrying when pregnant.  My first time i know i did, but i guess i didn't think it could really happen to me.  I am young and relatively healthy, I don't drink, smoke or do drugs.  I had heard the heartbeat a couple of times and thought that since i was approaching my second trimester that i was good to go.  I know next time i probably wont be able to breathe easy for a long time.

If you are or have gone through a miscarriage i hope you can find someone to talk to.  Like i said earlier it can be a little lonely because people don't really like to talk about it, or people don't know how to talk about it if they haven't gone through it themselves.  When i had my first i had a couple people reach out to me, sending me emails, and it was nice to talk to them.   Of course, my family was very supportive and always checked in with me and I'm very thankful for that!  Jeremy has also been wonderful.  We've had to rely on each other more than ever and I think it's brought is even closer together.

Monday, January 27, 2014

a few snow days

A couple weeks ago when we had the Polar Vortex we had several snow days.  Well Jeremy didn't, but a lot of St. Louis was shut down.  Below 0 temperatures with negative wind chills and about 12 inches of snow on and off for a week.  Lots of snow is always fun at first, but after a couple days I'm ready for it to go away and warm up.  I kept hearing and reading about how people need to bring their pets inside and how people could report you if they thought there was some neglect.  Well it was hard to get Ziva to come inside!  She loved the cold and snow and she was sure to tell us if she had enough.  I kept bringing her inside feeling bad for her and thinking we would get in trouble, but Jeremy reminded me that she's a husky and can handle -50 degree weather.  Of course, she was never out over night or longer than an hour or so at a time really. 

 
Just sittin' around watching the snow fall

 
She was crazy!


 This is her happy face!

 
Jeremy shoveling the driveway.  It is not easy!  I tried doing it the next day since more snow fell and it was hard.  I think I got a little frostbite...or frost nip?  After I shoveled the driveway, I went and chased Z for a few minutes.  Decided to try and make a snow angel, which Ziva stopped all over it as soon as I got up.  I couldn't see it anyway it was so bright outside.  When I came inside I noticed one of my fingers was all numb and swollen.  Kinda like I was stung by a bee, but it didn't hurt.  It was like that for awhile before the swelling went down.  I thought I was going to loose my fingertip!  (I had seen the day before pictures on the news how peoples fingers were black from frostbite)
 
 
On the garage window where all my plants were.  They almost all died :(  I thought they'd be protected, but I guess it was too cold. 
 
Hurry up Spring!! I'm ready for warmer weather and no snow!  I'm ready to start planting things and going outside to play!  I'm never really a fan of January and February anyway and this cold is not helping!
 

Ditty of the Day

When we were home my brother made us a couple CD's for the drive back to St. Louis.
Here's just one of the songs that's been stuck in my head the past couple weeks.
Thanks for the CD's, Josh!

 

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Aaaand we're back!

Jeremy has saved the day and got all of our pictures off the laptop!  I think he said there was like 18,000 pictures on there. Honeymoon, wedding (which we had on a cd too), Thailand, Yellowstone, and all my projects and flowers. Plus Ziva!  We've got a working computer too so I can get back to posting pictures and such soon.

Tomorrow is going to be freezing! Luckily Jeremy has the day off and we don't plan on leaving the house.  Early this morning around 2 am I heard Ziva sighing and whining so I got up to let her out thinking maybe she had to go to the bathroom.  Nope. She heard an owl and was trying to find it and wouldn't come back in.  I was mad at her and myself for falling for her sighs.

A few other happenings and thoughts:

I've picked up some shifts at my dance studio a few days a week.  Not teaching, but working the front desk doing administration stuff.

I did start cutting out hexagons for that quilt I mentioned last time. It's going to take awhile!

I'm ready for spring. Really, I'm ready for summer.  I don't like the cold and I think this winter is going to be a long one.

I would really love to make some flowers. I went out the other day looking for something to work with and just was not feeling anything :(

We got dressed up all fancy for Jeremy's work party last weekend and I must say we looked good! It's kinda a one time a year thing and unfortunately we didn't get any pictures for proof.  You'll just have to take my word for it!

I've thought about painting our living room. Still not sure though.  I should paint the mud room and the stairwell because now it's white and well it's not so white anymore.

Anyway guess I could go cut some more hexagons.  Maybe I'll get some more regular posts soon!  As always, thanks for checking in!








Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Computer down. Laptop down.

Last week our laptop crashed. Or something. And our desktop has a virus.  Unfortunately for me all of my pictures were on the laptop. Jeremy said he's going to try and save them some how.  I hope he can. At least I have lots of pictures on here that I can go back and save from.   I did get an iPad for Christmas so that's what I'm on now but I'm not sure how to post pictures from my phone/ iPad  from it. Kind of a bummer because I was wanting to post more.

Last week I did some research on making a quilt. My sister in law, Mary, was making one over Christmas and I had been thinking about wanting to do one myself. Nothing too fancy.  Maybe a hexagon pattern. I have a ton of fabric.  Last year I went to a fabric store and they had all kinds of fabric packets (like a 12 by 12....actually probably a lot bigger than that) for like $1.00.  I probably could get started on it now, at least cutting out the hexagons, but Ziva is napping after whining in my face for awhile and I'm all curled up on the couch getting sleepy.   I think I'll just go get that fabric and cut out on the couch....a win win! (Except for my sleepy, dry eyeballs) 

Yesterday I had an aerial class and my arms are so sore today!  I've started working at the dance studio. Not as a dance teacher, but working the front desk and administrative stuff.   It's been a little scary since it's all still new, but I'm sure I'll get the hang of it soon.  

Not much else is new.  I'll keep you posted every now and then and hopefully I can get a working computer or some way to add all my pictures of Ziva ;). I also need a working computer so I can watch this new season of Pretty Little Liars!  I'll try YouTube (nothing else seems to be working). 

Saturday, January 4, 2014

a winter arrangement

Mums, kale, roses, rose hips, dill, seeded eucalyptus, fern, and a few twigs.









Deer head

This year in Jeremy's family we drew names and were suppose to make our gifts for Christmas.  I got his sister, Lisa.  A few years ago i made a paper mache deer head and i remembered she told me that she really like it.  I had thought of making a couple other things and when i was at Hobby Lobby looking at fabric i saw the sliced tree trunk piece and thought about the deer head.  I started collecting newspapers and doing a little bit of research on how i wanted it to look.  I knew it was going to have to be a lot bigger than the one i made before.  It took a little while to get the base going.  The last time i used a bottle and this time it was just newspaper balled up.  After i got the neck, head and ears done i tried to figure out how to do the antlers.  I tried a few different things and nothing was working.  I ended up cutting out the shape in cardboard.  I used The Secret Garden for the words and then glued and nailed it to the sliced wood.





We had to travel with it from Missouri to Georgia and i was afraid it would get messed up.  It arrived in one piece and i was a little sad to part with it!  I like it better than the first one i made and may have to make another one for myself! 

catching up from December

I've got a bunch of pictures i haven't posted yet from last month.  I'm really behind here!  We were gone for the week of Christmas and leading up to that week we were busy finishing up our Christmas shopping and just the hustle and bustle of the season.  The weekend after Thanksgiving we got our Christmas tree and i decorated around the house.  We had a few big snow days and made our first snowman.  I named him Olaf after the snowman from Frozen.  I loved that movie :)


I gave Ziva a bit of Peanut Butter



My indoor snow!  I was cutting up snowflakes one day and while talking to my mom she told me about this marshmallow snow she saw on Pinterest.  It took me awhile to figure it out.  First i tried to thread it with a needle but that was just way too sticky.  Then i started to tie the thread about the mallow.  I only did one knot on the small ones but if a bigger one was underneath it the weight of it pulled it down and sliced the small marshmallow in half.  So you just have to double knot each marshmallow.  Then there was trying to keep them from falling.  I had to double and triple tape some of them.  THEN Ziva found out she liked marshmallows because if they fell in the middle of the night and fell on the couch (most feel behind the couch) she would gobble them up the next morning before i even noticed they fell.  One day i came home and found a paper snowflake on the floor.  I noticed the couch cushions and pillows looked all messed up.  That dog jumped up on the couch and pulled down some of those marshmallows.  


I was doing a little photoshoot with some flowers and i gave her stick to chew on.
When we bought the tree i don't think we really thought much about the size of it and where we would put it. 
We moved it all of the room and moved furniture trying to figure out where to put it.
 It was a little big for our small living room.
We also like to pile on the ornaments :)



snow days!


our first snowman...Ziva broke off part of his hand.  Then after we walked away the first thing she did was take the carrot. 



After i was inside for awhile i looked outside and found Ziva like this, leaning up against her new friend. 

I have a couple more picture to post from December so bare with me!  
Thanks for checking in and i hope you had a Happy New Year!

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

mums the word


Chrysanthemums....i'm not particularly fond of them.  Mostly the little mini mums.  Maybe it's because that's all i could find to work with last year and i was tired of them.  They are on the cheaper side and last a good while, which is a plus!  These mums though were really pretty (and big!).  They kinda made me get over my dislike for them.  At least for now.  When i saw the orange/gold ones i actually got excited!   The purple mums were also really pretty and i couldn't pass them up (i was actually looking for something purple since i hadn't really worked with much purple before).  As far as the garden roses go...who could resist (i never do!).  So orange, purple, and red....i wasn't sure how that was going to turn out.  When i got home i walked around the yard and clipped a few of the maple tree and other branches i could....our trees were already starting to lose it leaves.  







Once again i've probably posted too many flower pictures.  I'm sure two maybe three would be plenty, but i guess since i take so many i feel like i have to share.  I promise you aren't looking at the same picture over and over again.  I mean i guess it is the same just at different angles.  I go through them, write down the ones i like, weed out a few, and then usually add one more before it's all done.  Oh well, it's my blog and i can add as many flower pictures as i like!  ;)

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